tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post7774488588665228946..comments2023-10-17T12:05:26.540+01:00Comments on Razor-blade of Life: Too much togethernessZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-3214487068420177302009-03-07T18:59:00.000+00:002009-03-07T18:59:00.000+00:00It's only likely to occur occasionally - I suspect...It's only likely to occur occasionally - I suspect his wife 'doesn't understand him' and nor does he cherish her. Why not for goodness sake? Be nice to your spouse and expect the same back has worked for us.<BR/><BR/>I was glad of Bloglines when my computer went down last year because I lost all my bookmarks and I've never remembered some of them. If it all gets a bit much I skim through. One can 'mark all read' but the danger with that is that you miss something really important!Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-50915629465905264162009-03-07T18:32:00.000+00:002009-03-07T18:32:00.000+00:00Oh gods I am sorry. What an annoying situation.In ...Oh gods I am sorry. What an annoying situation.<BR/>In regard to the 168 posts, this is why I don't really subscribe to blogs. I simply bookmark them, get to them when I can, and backtrack. Which is why you will sometimes find me commenting on something which has happened long ago.<BR/>Good luck with both of your obligations, Z. I know you will handle them with applomb.heybartenderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09916319179509954795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-91535741787400771932009-03-04T13:59:00.000+00:002009-03-04T13:59:00.000+00:00There's a degree to which it's all right -...There's a degree to which it's all right - for example, Dave knew that I was simply taking him out to lunch for his birthday a year and a half ago. I neither put him under an obligation nor embarrassed him, because we were simply being friendly. But this chap had already been just a tiny bit too keen and he was too insistent that he'd pay. That would still have been all right if he hadn't paid for tea too. It's not the money, it's being proprietorial. <BR/><BR/>The return lunch won't be until June, Sandy. I trust he doesn't ask me to have lunch with him after one of our lectures, because I'm not going to. As you say, a tightrope. The silly thing is that most people I'd be happy to have lunch with, whether they paid, I did or we split the bill. And I know that many men, older ones in particular, feel uncomfortable with women paying, which was why I didn't make a thing of it in F&M.<BR/><BR/>You're a young man, Dave, so you don't feel the same way. Anyway, you haven't got your eye on me , nor are you trying to impress me.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-85168752542200771232009-03-04T13:47:00.000+00:002009-03-04T13:47:00.000+00:00Yes, I see what you mean. It's sometimes not clear...Yes, I see what you mean. It's sometimes not clear where the other person is coming from and you have to walk the tightrope between seeming offish or 'encourageing'. It's funny but also rahter uncomfortable. Can't wait to hear how the return lunch goes. . . . . . .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-65636117524483817362009-03-04T12:59:00.000+00:002009-03-04T12:59:00.000+00:00I am grateful for all this advice that ladies don'...I am grateful for all this advice that ladies don't want men to pay for things. I shall leave my wallet at home whenever I go out in future.<BR/><BR/>I have no problem with being bought meals.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-772299114611800682009-03-04T11:48:00.000+00:002009-03-04T11:48:00.000+00:00It is always awkward when someone latches onto you...It is always awkward when someone latches onto you like this - sometimes you have to be really careful about who you show kindness to as it can be misconstrued. It is particularly difficult when a male to whom you are not attached insists on paying for things.<BR/><BR/>I sympathise and I hope you can find a way of ever so gently putting him off a bit without causing offence.Lizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10600329429654831610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-34408947345529904382009-03-04T10:32:00.000+00:002009-03-04T10:32:00.000+00:00No, Anon (you terrible tease, you) I felt impatien...No, Anon (you terrible tease, you) I felt impatient, although I remained polite.<BR/>He wasn't being flirtatious and there was nothing to actually object to. In a way, if I were to draw attention to it being a bit much, it would look as if I was reading too much into it, which might be paradoxically encouraging. I really don't think he's got anything else in mind - you're right Newbie, I assume he'll respect the boundaries. He is just being friendly and the last thing I expect is that he's going to ring up or anything. <BR/><BR/>It's just that it's nice to be able to spend a bit of time with several different people - perhaps join some for coffee, a couple more for lunch, chat for a while with some others - and he was always there making it impossible. And if it's a one-off, it doesn't matter, but I don't want it to start to be a regular thing, that we always spend the whole day together on these visits. I can see that it will put me off going, which would be a pity. I'm not being prudish, it's just that it got too much, and a bit boring and I couldn't get away without being rude.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-51350170719340870662009-03-04T07:48:00.000+00:002009-03-04T07:48:00.000+00:00OOOh Z you naughty girl, haha. I am a bit like you...OOOh Z you naughty girl, haha. I am a bit like you, I hate anybody paying for me, perhaps he is doing it to say thank you for being so kind to him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-54085053606650752412009-03-04T07:08:00.000+00:002009-03-04T07:08:00.000+00:00I promise never to offer to pay for your lunch.I promise never to offer to pay for your lunch.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-70282907267099636272009-03-04T04:34:00.000+00:002009-03-04T04:34:00.000+00:00ooh Z, this is cute and funny at the same time! En...ooh Z, this is cute and funny at the same time! Enjoy the part that feels nice, and get rid of the part that doesnt :-)How do we knowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01763488475931737293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-50160000256453251782009-03-04T00:44:00.000+00:002009-03-04T00:44:00.000+00:00Oh and also, anon, I don't think it's right to say...Oh and also, anon, I don't think it's right to say that people enjoy having their will being pressured. That's just the kind of excuse that boundary-pushers try to use, and it isn't on.Dandelionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12302932867084357713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-32291226323806579652009-03-04T00:40:00.000+00:002009-03-04T00:40:00.000+00:00I hate that feeling. And I hate that it makes you...I <I>hate</I> that feeling. And I hate that it makes you feel you have to protect them from the embarrassment of their own behaviour. Yuk Yuk Yuk.<BR/><BR/>Maybe this is a modern thing, but even if you don't have cash, you can still insist on putting half on a card. You don't need a better reason than that you wouldn't feel comfortable otherwise. A good person would respect that. As it is, you've been bamboozled into sharing a second lunch. Which is Not Fair.Dandelionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12302932867084357713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-25343116055593599442009-03-03T22:43:00.000+00:002009-03-03T22:43:00.000+00:00Hee! I love that you have someone after you!It mu...Hee! I love that you have someone after you!<BR/><BR/>It must be tricky though, figuring out where the point is to have to say to someone "Look, your behaviour is bordering on the inappropriate..." <BR/>Maybe being a married lady you trust the other person to just stay back a certain distance?Newbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00049000568700924125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-90989411320844712172009-03-03T22:40:00.000+00:002009-03-03T22:40:00.000+00:00Careful what you wish for... perhaps you enjoy bei...Careful what you wish for... perhaps you enjoy being chased?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com