tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post5619592212385971946..comments2023-10-17T12:05:26.540+01:00Comments on Razor-blade of Life: Z paces the floor and worriesZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-12119716577554097852011-06-16T19:46:28.371+01:002011-06-16T19:46:28.371+01:00From what I remember it wasn't the inspection ...From what I remember it wasn't the inspection but the INSPECTORS themselves. They had such superior 'know-it-all' attitudes. Often the ones who seemed a little more pleasant to ones face were the ones who gave nasty reports. Our head of maths was criticised for not introducing the topic. "But I did that before you came in" he said. "Well, I didn't see it so it didn't get a tick" was the response!sablonneusehttp://sablonneuse.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-73141264180522475092011-06-14T16:16:15.578+01:002011-06-14T16:16:15.578+01:00Though Dave may be sensible, I perfectly understan...Though Dave may be sensible, I perfectly understand. The suspense is figuritively,killing you. Unlike most men, you just want to talk about it. <br /><br />Breathe:)luckyzmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176703683321469118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-40937068040165748352011-06-14T15:46:54.296+01:002011-06-14T15:46:54.296+01:00Having left home early for the train on Saturday a...Having left home early for the train on Saturday and been very glad that I did, I'm with you there, Savannah!<br /><br />Does my hard stare reach over to France, Chris? (known as a Paddington stare in our family).Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-73914055773598620352011-06-14T13:10:22.909+01:002011-06-14T13:10:22.909+01:00I know you're terribly busy, and that in the e...I know you're terribly busy, and that in the end you will conquer everything with your usual mix of patience, tact and good sense, so please don't feel obliged to devote time to reading this.Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14227767014123557100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-77757926647655639942011-06-14T12:49:32.622+01:002011-06-14T12:49:32.622+01:00i so understand this, sugar! it's the waiting ...i so understand this, sugar! it's the <i>waiting</i> and nothing more. i have been known to leave for the airport and hour earlier than needed, rather than wait at home. crazy, i know, but waiting makes me <i>antsy</i>! xoxoxoxsavannahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04310843901371718758noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-80859844204944629722011-06-14T09:33:22.245+01:002011-06-14T09:33:22.245+01:00Thanks, Sharon - that's exactly it. The good t...Thanks, Sharon - that's exactly it. The good thing is that we will only be notified on a Monday or Friday morning, so can get on with other things the rest of the week without expecting a call.<br /><br />The daft thing is, I'll be fine when it's announced, it really is just the wait.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-13350799953765482352011-06-14T09:26:59.797+01:002011-06-14T09:26:59.797+01:00I hate waiting for anything once I'm prepared ...I hate waiting for anything once I'm prepared for it, too. It's the limbo feeling I dislike - it just doesn't feel natural to have to wait once everything's ready to go. I sometimes wonder whether this is a woman thing, because the men I've known have never appeared to be bothered by it. Hopefully it'll soon be over and you'll be able to relax again.Sharon Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17300818778040143359noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-15760837547779413912011-06-14T09:06:07.930+01:002011-06-14T09:06:07.930+01:00Dave, walking away from it would cause me far more...Dave, walking away from it would cause me far more stress, I would be wracked with guilt. I do this job well, believe me, and right now I'm the best person to do it. A few years ago, I was under more stress than this constantly and I coped because I had to. This is a short-term situation, for a specific reason. It is not the inspection, it's the wait.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-47343953985694003672011-06-14T08:46:48.159+01:002011-06-14T08:46:48.159+01:00I am sorry, but you are letting it affect you, bec...I am sorry, but you are letting it affect you, because you could walk away from it. <br /><br />I have seen too many people make themselves physically ill with stress, to the point of breakdowns. If a voluntary job causes this stress to you, then you must ask whether the pleasure of doing it (or the satfisfaction of serving your community) outweighs the stress.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-52480436987069712722011-06-14T08:38:41.774+01:002011-06-14T08:38:41.774+01:00Dave, I'll explain this one more time.
I ha...Dave, I'll explain this one more time. <br /><br />I have taken on a responsibility. If I had not been prepared for all that entailed, I should not have taken it on. If I just ducked out of the interview, I would be letting down my colleagues and the school, although if the inspectors want to see us at a time it is impossible for me to be there, I cannot help that and provision has been made in that eventuality. However, since I know I can do a good job and help support the school well, I would rather be present for the interview.<br /><br />It isn't a matter of "let it", I've explained that my tension is beyond my control and I cannot help waking up four or five times a night. The point is the unexpected wait, long after we're ready. It's no one's fault, and I'm not criticising Ofsted. If you look at the post, I wasn't complaining about anything to do with it, just that I want it to happen and I can't settle until it has. Usually, music to suit my mood helps me to relax, but last night I couldn't deal with it, it was all just noise.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-89158386290107255962011-06-14T08:21:19.477+01:002011-06-14T08:21:19.477+01:00My point precisely then. They don't expect yo...My point precisely then. They don't expect you to be there. You have others who could be there. It's affecting you physically and mentally. So why let it?Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-52855355402106352222011-06-14T08:07:25.925+01:002011-06-14T08:07:25.925+01:00You may have a few years to wait, Roses, but I'...You may have a few years to wait, Roses, but I'll add it to the list, no problem.<br /><br />Obviously, they have no such expectation, Dave, and that isn't the point I'm making. They will be there for two days, there are five of us on standby and any or all of us, as available, will go for the meeting. Hopefully, that will include me or the vice-chair or both, as we have the best all-round knowledge of the school. None of this is a problem (if the worst came to the worst, they would do a telephone interview). What is a problem to me is that it is, without my conscious knowledge and beyond my control, affecting me physically and mentally.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-21145962228766187542011-06-14T07:51:17.367+01:002011-06-14T07:51:17.367+01:00I'm not suggesting you let people down, I just...I'm not suggesting you let people down, I just can't believe that every single governor (or even just the Chair) is expected to be available at the whim of the inspecting authorities. <br /><br />Presumably there must be times when they make their inspection and find the governors are not around because of work and holidays. <br /><br />If they really want to meet people who are not employed to be there in term-time, and expect them to have made preparation for it, then common sense (not to mention common courtesy) suggests that they should make a proper appointment to do so.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-59422703442813205492011-06-14T07:48:47.114+01:002011-06-14T07:48:47.114+01:00Oh my dear. Yes, I can see that the anticipation i...Oh my dear. Yes, I can see that the anticipation is far worse than the event. Bastards torturing you this way.<br /><br />By the way, when you're finished downsizing yours, would you mind doing mine too?Roseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07469442580348062913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-83294389867090134682011-06-14T07:38:16.253+01:002011-06-14T07:38:16.253+01:00It's not the inspection itself, it's the w...It's not the inspection itself, it's the waiting - although my friend Jo who, like your Maths teacher, is a very good one, is very nervous too.<br /><br />Dave, you may think it's okay for me to let people down, but I don't. And the point is not that I'm dreading the inspection, but that getting ready for it uses a lot of nervous energy and adrenaline, and we were all ready weeks ago and are now on hold. Although it isn't consciously on my mind all the time, it's affecting me as I described.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-82819651568529509972011-06-14T07:27:08.061+01:002011-06-14T07:27:08.061+01:00Interesting that I can twice make exactly the same...Interesting that I can twice make exactly the same typo on the word available.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-3830897681552161882011-06-14T07:25:59.668+01:002011-06-14T07:25:59.668+01:00Presumably, as governors are volunteers, and not e...Presumably, as governors are volunteers, and not employed to be avaialble to the school during its opening hours, the Inspectors cannot make them attend - if one has a full-time job, and is only available in evenings, for instance, or if (as they don't give you a date in advance) you are away on holiday, then it is just bad luck, they can't see you.<br /><br />So, if it's making you so tense, why don't you just go away on a holiday?<br /><br />On the other hand, if you really want to meet them, and want to make yourself avaialble at whatever time suits them, then try to accept this is something you want to do, and look forward to it.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-52633291912421251702011-06-14T03:29:06.022+01:002011-06-14T03:29:06.022+01:00I remember how nervous our maths teacher looked wh...I remember how nervous our maths teacher looked when we had the inspector in... I dunno why he looked so stressed, he was a good teacher.<br /><br />You could always try the orange theme vitamin C mix on my sidebar. I dunno if you'd like that one. I think it was originally written by Henry Purcell, was featured in the film A Clockwork Orange and got techno'd up.....Gledwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09308172310486574510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-81426252174244560782011-06-13T22:37:10.881+01:002011-06-13T22:37:10.881+01:00When my mother died, my sister and I turned out he...When my mother died, my sister and I turned out her papers and so on, and agreed that we would dispose of personal letters and cards between her and our stepfather, because we'd feel it intrusive to keep them, that we'd keep any photos if there was anyone we recognised in them, but otherwise throw them away (a lot of random scenes we didn't recognise) and that we'd amicably share anything we wanted.<br /><br />None of the children has room for anything we might offer them, unfortunately. And they think we're far too cluttered, which is true!<br /><br />And, thank you.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-85319680911572497682011-06-13T22:08:10.780+01:002011-06-13T22:08:10.780+01:00Of course he wouldn't. All of ours are pleasan...Of course he wouldn't. All of ours are pleasantly surprised when they find there's something they can do for the oldies rather than the other way round. Mark you, we've 'downsized' twice, and it can be done. Be firm about old paperwork, and stuff which really is too nice to part with - give to the youngsters. Of ours, one got a four poster bed, two got old dolls' houses, one got a Victorian rocking horse, and one got an oak refectory table (plus smaller bits). That way everyone is pleased and we still feel we're in touch with 'our' things. It sounds as if , in every sense, you've got too much on your plate at the moment. Try and relax. It'll work out. <br />Warm regards, Mike and Ann.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07558857315748815249noreply@blogger.com