tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post2622473374455904077..comments2023-10-17T12:05:26.540+01:00Comments on Razor-blade of Life: For once, not all about ZZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-7068974167731997622008-03-15T21:45:00.000+00:002008-03-15T21:45:00.000+00:00I understand that it is much harder for men to rec...I understand that it is much harder for men to recover from a stroke, than it is for women.luckyzmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176703683321469118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-62199762407449189552008-03-10T15:56:00.000+00:002008-03-10T15:56:00.000+00:00Darling JohnG, I wish good health and a long life ...Darling JohnG, I wish good health and a long life to your dad and all the best possible to you.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-8676237627764300322008-03-10T15:47:00.000+00:002008-03-10T15:47:00.000+00:00My situation exactly if my dad dies! I'm f*cked! U...My situation exactly if my dad dies! I'm f*cked! Unless I can get government care, but with the compensation award I've got (but not received yet!), I will not qualify for care!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11346682505354790114noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-23294748428727082312008-03-10T11:49:00.000+00:002008-03-10T11:49:00.000+00:00Hear, hear, BoyHear, hear, BoyZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-25100712960055804552008-03-10T10:37:00.000+00:002008-03-10T10:37:00.000+00:00Poor both of them. As a man used to being "big an...Poor both of them. As a man used to being "big and strong" one of the fears sitting at the back of my mind is how will I cope if and when I'm not? I'd like to think I wouldn't give up, but the depression has got to be severe.<BR/><BR/>As for being the caring one, that's tough in such a different way. You start with the right intentions, and love remains, but the resentment is also there. I'm glad these two found a solution.The Boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06052411992134880131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-43517202604862402172008-03-10T08:48:00.000+00:002008-03-10T08:48:00.000+00:00Martina, it can be hard to find time for yourself,...Martina, it can be hard to find time for yourself, especially if the help is not offered, and a constrained lifestyle becomes habitual, unfortunately. One still wants to cherish the person who needs care, but there sometimes seems to be no one to cherish the carer.<BR/><BR/>Dharmabum, I used to find it hard to accept help, but I've been practising! All's well here, thank you for your concern - I'll be back to mindless jollity later.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-2919680629568284602008-03-10T07:04:00.000+00:002008-03-10T07:04:00.000+00:00quite unlike a regular z post, this one. how have ...quite unlike a regular z post, this one. how have you been?<BR/><BR/>i would think it is tough times, sickness. both for the convalescing and the caring. i did, although for a brief while, when my own mother had a problem with her back and it had her bed ridden, and immobile for more than a month. i'd initially found it hard, specially the times when she needed to relieve herself and all. i got used to it though, and slowly, found a joy in it. all the while though, i could see a certain pain in her eyes - arising from guilt probably, that father or i had to do the things we did. i wasn't sure if it was entirely necessary, as a kid, i'm sure she'd done the same things for me, so big deal :)<BR/><BR/>also, i'm quite an independent person too. and yet, if i do fall sick, and help arrives, i will accept it with gratitude, for i do believe it is He who helps. we are but instruments.<BR/><BR/>lots of food for thought, this post. thank you!dharmabumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07198727554870311298noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-2231376557270705202008-03-09T23:20:00.000+00:002008-03-09T23:20:00.000+00:00Dave, hope you feel much better very soon. Let yo...Dave, hope you feel much better very soon. Let your friends fuss about you-it makes them feel good.<BR/>Z-very well said. So many people forget themselves while caring for others. Caregivers need to take time for themselves so they are healthy mentally and physically for others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-77395849248654924152008-03-09T22:15:00.000+00:002008-03-09T22:15:00.000+00:00I think you've got more chance of that than Dave, ...I think you've got more chance of that than Dave, at any rate.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-70900954469363724222008-03-09T22:13:00.000+00:002008-03-09T22:13:00.000+00:00Ooh. I read this weekend that pancreatitis was th...Ooh. I read this weekend that pancreatitis was the closest thing. But I think I'd rather do child-birth than an eye operation any day.Monozygotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04965915993980593549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-65989452105755099032008-03-09T20:05:00.000+00:002008-03-09T20:05:00.000+00:00I understand that passing a kidney stone is the ne...I understand that passing a kidney stone is the nearest a man can get to the feeling of childbirth without anaesthetic. That gives me vast sympathy for Dave. His eye operation was horrible in a different way; I hope it wasn't so painful.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-70154783856418086412008-03-09T19:18:00.000+00:002008-03-09T19:18:00.000+00:00You may be right, z, but I think in the case of an...You may be right, z, but I think in the case of an operation like dave's, it's an understatement. <BR/><BR/>At least, dave, the operation is behind you now.<BR/>xMonozygotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04965915993980593549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-30396632765217397362008-03-09T15:00:00.000+00:002008-03-09T15:00:00.000+00:00Yes, darling, he used his tail.Having an operation...Yes, darling, he used his tail.<BR/><BR/>Having an operation under local anasthetic is like having a baby; by the time you wish you'd made a different choice, it's too late to do anything about it.<BR/><BR/>I hope not too. I don't think you are. I hope I'm not either, but who knows how one will react?Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-82713592015585241092008-03-09T14:53:00.000+00:002008-03-09T14:53:00.000+00:00Did the dog wave back?I'm independent, and don't l...Did the dog wave back?<BR/><BR/>I'm independent, and don't like people making a fuss of me, which of course they all want to, now I'm too ill to work.<BR/><BR/>I also, whilst undergoing the eye operation, did wonder if being blind would be worse than the pain of the operation.<BR/><BR/>I hope, though, that I'm not as awkward as the gentleman you s=describe.Davehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08403853324345062446noreply@blogger.com