tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post6504130839122112910..comments2023-10-17T12:05:26.540+01:00Comments on Razor-blade of Life: Z dislikes sweeping statementsZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-13240838532980539262007-02-05T22:20:00.000+00:002007-02-05T22:20:00.000+00:00Sorry again, Mary. I've changed it.Sorry again, Mary. I've changed it.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-16428002233279447722007-02-05T18:43:00.000+00:002007-02-05T18:43:00.000+00:00Ah. I understand. You're quite right: the program ...Ah. I understand. You're quite right: the program is American! (Who else could say take that position with a straight face?) My confusion was caused because you linked to my blog (which is currently talking about an event in my city) rather than the post about that program.<br /><br />(Do you know how to link to a specific post? I can tell you how, if you need/want.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-83114557221070373852007-02-05T09:16:00.000+00:002007-02-05T09:16:00.000+00:00Thank you very much, Mary. No one reading your si...Thank you very much, Mary. No one reading your site would doubt the value of good parenting, both by the parents themselves and by professional carers.<br /><br />I know you aren't American, but I rather assumed the programme was. Sorry! I'll change it.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-14558058851977885522007-02-05T00:59:00.000+00:002007-02-05T00:59:00.000+00:00Gah! My comment vanished!
Lovely post. Intelligen...Gah! My comment vanished!<br /><br />Lovely post. Intelligent, thought-provoking, sensible.<br /><br />I also enjoyed the comment about "aggressive defensiveness". I'm going to remember that term<br /><br />(Oh, and Z? I'm not American.)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-32099641475797518212007-02-02T22:01:00.000+00:002007-02-02T22:01:00.000+00:00I see what you mean. Greavsie is proving elusive,...I see what you mean. Greavsie is proving elusive, isn't he.<br /><br />Probably the result of the couscous/Korma combo.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-74271813532615383462007-02-02T21:59:00.000+00:002007-02-02T21:59:00.000+00:00If ever you are too frustrated by Blogger, send me...If ever you are too frustrated by Blogger, send me an email and i'll post your comment myself.<br /><br />silly Blogger.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-30752252716893111652007-02-02T21:55:00.000+00:002007-02-02T21:55:00.000+00:00Couldn't get in the below comment box. Had same p...Couldn't get in the below comment box. Had same problen over at Greavsie's.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-37592385151423990062007-02-02T21:53:00.000+00:002007-02-02T21:53:00.000+00:00That's the best, if you can do it isn't it, Pat. ...That's the best, if you can do it isn't it, Pat. I used to enjoy standing at the school gates chatting with the other mums. I've never been up on the village chit-chat since.<br /><br />When my children were young, most of the mums took time off work until they were at school or worked part-time. I was a very hands-on mum, myself.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-19277041712483317322007-02-02T21:44:00.000+00:002007-02-02T21:44:00.000+00:00I am happy that I styed at home with the children ...I am happy that I styed at home with the children until they started school and then organised a job that I could do after delivering them to at school and before picking them up.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-40112053500839692552007-02-02T18:14:00.000+00:002007-02-02T18:14:00.000+00:00Never boring. Tiring, frustrating, wearing...fun.....Never boring. Tiring, frustrating, wearing...fun...never ever boring.y.Wendy.yhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10630727119097764058noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-76208717379974246352007-02-02T15:01:00.000+00:002007-02-02T15:01:00.000+00:00I think it would really help if people were not so...<i>I think it would really help if people were not so aggressively defensive over their own choice</i><br /><br />Amen. Oh, Amen! If you don't breastfeed, you're a failure, if you do breastfeed, you're a sap. If you work, you're a cold bitch, if you don't work, you're feeble-minded.<br /><br />If there was only one right way to raise a child, then what a boring uncreative world we'd live in.<br /><br />The most important thing is, to *want* the child.Imperatrixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11748228447190366632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-16423380037087323942007-02-02T14:28:00.000+00:002007-02-02T14:28:00.000+00:00A bit of a paradox there - sometimes, the people w...A bit of a paradox there - sometimes, the people who most long for children can be taken aback by the drudgery and the sheer stress. And some are surprised by joy at the birth of their first baby.<br /><br />But some people seem to take little pleasure in their children and that's sad. Tough enough, growing up.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-34386954388261466942007-02-02T13:58:00.000+00:002007-02-02T13:58:00.000+00:00I'm not sure childcare was ever really valued. Pa...I'm not sure childcare was ever really valued. Part of me feels that if people don't have an aptitude or desire for it, then what on earth are they doing <i>having</i> children? Why not leave it to people who <i>are</i> committed? Though I can see that might sound a bit extreme.<br /><br />If some parents are frustrated and unhappy, then I would say that's as much to do with their role not being valued, as to do with its inherent stress/repetitiveness, or their aptitude for it.<br /><br />The devaluing of parenting seems to be premissed on a denial of, or failure to grasp any basic psychology, and the long-reaching impact of parenting quality on the society of tomorrow.<br /><br />And I don't think it does give a very nice message to the children to be viewed as a chore or a burden, or just plain boring. It's no wonder a lot of them are pissed off, and lack the skills to deal with that constructively. Well said, zMonozygotehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04965915993980593549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-73216044242988290552007-02-02T13:39:00.000+00:002007-02-02T13:39:00.000+00:00I think it would really help if people were not so...I think it would really help if people were not so aggressively defensive over their own choice - that if it works for them, it must be the best.<br /><br />And also, that people who do not earn a wage are valued for what they do do. It can be hard to feel a sense of self-worth when you do not have a pay packet and are dismissed as 'justamum' or 'justahousewife'. <br />But equally, fulltime working parents need to be allowed flexibility and not to be considered shirkers if they want to leave on time to have some family life too.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-34105205341274325142007-02-02T13:30:00.000+00:002007-02-02T13:30:00.000+00:00I'd agree it needs a much larger horizon on this i...I'd agree it needs a much larger horizon on this issue. From a pure societal cost, we need to look at if a child with a parent at home is more productive in life than one which is brought up in shared child care. Its not an easy question, nor an easy answer.<br /><br />Nor do I think there is a blanket answer. Ms Mills sweeping generalities are a bit of a hard swallow. I agree with you that some full time mothers love it, mine did. My wife though, doesn't and enjoys her job.<br /><br />The question is, how do we as a society develop as system that caters to both freedoms? Not easy.The Boyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06052411992134880131noreply@blogger.com