tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post3121602140030329110..comments2023-10-17T12:05:26.540+01:00Comments on Razor-blade of Life: When it was fashionable not to relaxZhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-10277812415179748002013-08-05T18:43:09.452+01:002013-08-05T18:43:09.452+01:00I think that your last comment is right on Z.I think that your last comment is right on Z.luckyzmomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04176703683321469118noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-74550882983580134652013-07-31T21:59:39.795+01:002013-07-31T21:59:39.795+01:00I think a lot of the pressure came from other wome...I think a lot of the pressure came from other women, in my experience at the time, BW. For some, it was a sort of status symbol and for others a feeling of obligation. That many men didn't feel it in themselves might be sexist, but Nick's accurate description isn't, surely? And I have seen women take a domestic job away from a husband with the exclamation that he isn't doing it right (ie her way)- so he won't do it next time and that's down to her sexism, not his. Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-965793361807958282013-07-31T21:39:23.604+01:002013-07-31T21:39:23.604+01:00Blue Witch - Partly maybe. But I think it takes tw...Blue Witch - Partly maybe. But I think it takes two to create an oppressive situation. It's too easy to blame everything on men. A person who feels ground down should look for ways of opting out or lightening the load or getting others to do their fair share.<br /><br />But I'm not trying to excuse men. Men are responsible for many many appalling misogynist practices that any woman could go on listing all day and all night. Many men are simply barbaric. I could put it more forcefully, but Z's blog is not the place....nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-69931880970251652892013-07-31T20:55:59.099+01:002013-07-31T20:55:59.099+01:00Nick - it could be that all those women have all t...Nick - it could be that all those women have all those pressures becuase of the attitude of men. Sorry, but, I do find your comment rather sexist.Blue Witchhttp://blue-witch.co.uk/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-67020640709244090382013-07-31T20:45:04.795+01:002013-07-31T20:45:04.795+01:00Well, I dearly love an afternoon nap when I have t...Well, I dearly love an afternoon nap when I have the chance.<br /><br />And I agree, Nick - I don't seem to hear so many boasts of guilt at taking time for oneself any more (and it was that I meant, as I said, not the ones who really were struggling but those who used it as a weird status symbol). People are pushed more then ever now, it seems to me.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-26214221091426007402013-07-31T16:04:56.172+01:002013-07-31T16:04:56.172+01:00I think a lot of women feel guilty doing anything ...I think a lot of women feel guilty doing anything that doesn't seem "normal" or that satisfies their personal needs rather than other people's. The idea that you should be constantly on the go and never have a minute to yourself was/is quite ridiculous. But even though that idea has faded a bit, there are still plenty of women who're constantly on the go because they just have too many commitments - children, husband, work, housework, elderly relatives, organising social events etc. Hard to see how that's going to change.nickhttp://nickhereandnow.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-53564123395631798022013-07-31T09:41:55.702+01:002013-07-31T09:41:55.702+01:00In the 90s when I was growing Boy, it was pretty m...In the 90s when I was growing Boy, it was pretty much the same.<br /><br />I'm from the West Indies, we like to take it at a slower pace, preferably with an afternoon nap when Boy did. I learnt to ignore the raised eyebrow and tut. <br /><br />It's one of the joys of being an adult, you get to set your own pace. Roseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07469442580348062913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-59556940089985348532013-07-31T08:49:10.774+01:002013-07-31T08:49:10.774+01:00That was it, Irene, very easy to get sucked in to ...That was it, Irene, very easy to get sucked in to it. I've fortunately always been inclined to go against the trend and never took that attitude, however busy I became.<br /><br />It was, BW, though I suppose she capitalised on a growing trend. I never actually read the book myself, quite deliberately.Zhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00822383355869390919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-48456209164350444472013-07-31T07:22:57.559+01:002013-07-31T07:22:57.559+01:00It was Shirley Conran's fault - the 1975 book...It was Shirley Conran's fault - the 1975 book Superwoman - aimed at 'busy women', which coined the phrase 'Life is too short to stuff a mushroom'.<br /><br />These days, as a colleague of mine says, it's the fault of Mumsnet.Blue Witchhttp://blue-witch.co.uk/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21602861.post-36272382034981929632013-07-31T01:14:26.748+01:002013-07-31T01:14:26.748+01:00Yes, it was that way in the 80's and I remembe...Yes, it was that way in the 80's and I remember feeling stressed all the time while I was a suburban middle class housewife and mother of two young children. I piled the commitments on my head and felt I had to deliver proof for the reason of my existence. I finally broke under the pressure and left that life behind me, much to my relief. Irenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05043376053971475659noreply@blogger.com